Do You Ho’oponopono?

 Do YOU Ho’oponopono?  If not, why not?

I read Joe Vitalli’s book Zero Limits in June 2007 and was immediately blown away by the magic which is Ho’oponopono.  I mean, seriously, who would not be drawn into learning more about a system where you are responsible but not to blame?  This is so important, let me repeat that:  in Ho’oponopono, you are responsible but not to blame. 

I started playing around with it fairly soon after finishing the book: my relationship with my youngest son, B (who was born when I was 40) had been one of near constant minor quibbling and bickering and mutual verbal sniping.  (Yes, this made me ashamed, as I was an energy healer at this time, but that is another story.)

B was signed up to enter the US Army at the end of July 2007 and likely going to war.  I didn’t want my last sight of him to be marred by hard feelings.  I also wanted to find out how carefully one needed to word a Ho’oponopono script.  My first Ho’oponopono script was:

For my pissy relationship with B:

  1. I am sorry
  2. Please forgive me
  3. I love you
  4. Thank you

Several times each day, basically whenever I thought about him, I would say that script.  (I call that “running a script”.)

Three days after I started using the Ho’oponopono script, when I got home from work that night, B was home.  This was rare, because at that time he usually was away from home more often than not.  B said to me, “You know, Mom, when you say “XXX”, you aren’t telling me how stupid you think I am; you are saying something like “I have had a similar experience and here is what I learned or here is the mistake I made”.  You might not know it, but when I say “YYY”, I am not telling you what a terrible mother I think you are; I AM saying, “I appreciate what you’ve been through, but this is my life and I need to learn things for myself.”

We have not fought since that day, and I am writing this on May 23, 2012.  We both have since established personal boundaries with each other and I think our relationship is solid, which pleases me immensely.

Since that time, I have used Ho’oponopono successfully many times for personal issues.  What a wonderful gift!  One thing I give Ho’oponopono absolute credit for:  it used to be that I was unable to release hard feelings (the b*stards need to suffer!).  Since I began cleaning with Ho’oponopono, I am able to release hard feelings and celebrate positive, constructive outcomes.  Life is Good!

I continue to use Ho’oponopono and refine my scripts.  What fun!  At the point in the future when I become certified in Ho’oponopono, I will offer it to others.

Love and peace your way, Diana

© Copyright 2012:  Diana Endresen

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