Do YOU Ho’oponopono? If not, why not?
I read Joe Vitalli’s book Zero Limits in June 2007 and was immediately blown away by the magic which is Ho’oponopono. I mean, seriously, who would not be drawn into learning more about a system where you are responsible but not to blame? This is so important, let me repeat that: in Ho’oponopono, you are responsible but not to blame.
I started playing around with it fairly soon after finishing the book: my relationship with my youngest son, B (who was born when I was 40) had been one of near constant minor quibbling and bickering and mutual verbal sniping. (Yes, this made me ashamed, as I was an energy healer at this time, but that is another story.)
B was signed up to enter the US Army at the end of July 2007 and likely going to war. I didn’t want my last sight of him to be marred by hard feelings. I also wanted to find out how carefully one needed to word a Ho’oponopono script. My first Ho’oponopono script was:
For my pissy relationship with B:
- I am sorry
- Please forgive me
- I love you
- Thank you
Several times each day, basically whenever I thought about him, I would say that script. (I call that “running a script”.)
Three days after I started using the Ho’oponopono script, when I got home from work that night, B was home. This was rare, because at that time he usually was away from home more often than not. B said to me, “You know, Mom, when you say “XXX”, you aren’t telling me how stupid you think I am; you are saying something like “I have had a similar experience and here is what I learned or here is the mistake I made”. You might not know it, but when I say “YYY”, I am not telling you what a terrible mother I think you are; I AM saying, “I appreciate what you’ve been through, but this is my life and I need to learn things for myself.”
We have not fought since that day, and I am writing this on May 23, 2012. We both have since established personal boundaries with each other and I think our relationship is solid, which pleases me immensely.
Since that time, I have used Ho’oponopono successfully many times for personal issues. What a wonderful gift! One thing I give Ho’oponopono absolute credit for: it used to be that I was unable to release hard feelings (the b*stards need to suffer!). Since I began cleaning with Ho’oponopono, I am able to release hard feelings and celebrate positive, constructive outcomes. Life is Good!
I continue to use Ho’oponopono and refine my scripts. What fun! At the point in the future when I become certified in Ho’oponopono, I will offer it to others.
Love and peace your way, Diana
© Copyright 2012: Diana Endresen