Do YOU Ho’oponopono? If not, why not?
I read Joe Vitali’s book Zero Limits in June 2007 and was immediately blown away by the magic which is Ho’oponopono. I started playing around with it fairly soon after reading it: my relationship with my youngest son, Br***, (who was born when I was 40) had been one of near constant minor quibbling and mutual verbal sniping. Br*** was signed up to enter the US Army the end of July 2007 and likely going to war. I didn’t want my last sight of him to be marred by hard feelings. I also wanted to find out how carefully one needed to word one’s Ho’oponopono “script”. My first Ho’oponopono script was:
For my pissy relationship with Br***:
- I am sorry
- Please forgive me
- I love You
- Thank You
Several times each day, when I thought about Br***, I ran that script.
Three days after I started using the Ho’oponopono script, when I got home from work that night, Br*** was home (at that time it was rare to have him home when I got home) and said to me, “You know, Mom, when you say “XXX”, you aren’t telling me how stupid I am; you are saying something like “I have had a similar experience and here is what I learned or here is the mistake I made”. You might not know it, but when I say, “YYY”, I am not telling you what a terrible mother I think you are; I AM saying, “I appreciate what you’ve been through, but this is my life and I need to learn things myself.”
We have not fought since that day, and I am writing this on June 17, 2009. We both have since established personal boundaries with each other and I think our relationship is solid, which pleases me immensely.
Since that time, I have used Ho’oponopono successfully many times. What a wonderful gift! One thing I give Ho’oponopono absolute credit for: it used to be that I was unable to release hard feelings (the b*stards need to suffer!). Since I began cleaning with Ho’oponopono, I am now able to release hard feelings and celebrate positive, constructive outcomes! Life is Good!
I continue to use Ho’oponopono and refine my scripts. What fun!
Love and peace your way, Diana
